The 7 habits of highly effective people

During his 25 years of working with successful individuals in business, universities, & relationship settings, Stephen Covey discovered that high-achievers were often plagued with a sense of emptiness. In an attempt lớn understand why, he read several self-improvement, self-help, & popular psychology books written over the past 200 years. It was here that he noticed a stark historical contrast between two types of success. 

Before the First World War, success was attributed to ethics of character. This included characteristics such as humility, fidelity, integrity, courage, & justice. However, after the war, there was a shift to what Covey refers khổng lồ as the “Personality Ethic.” Here, success was attributed as a function of personality, public image, behaviors, và skills. Yet, these were just shallow, quick successes, overlooking the deeper principles of life.

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Covey argues it’s your character that needs to lớn be cultivated khổng lồ achieve sustainable success, not your personality. What we are says far more than what we say or do. The “Character Ethic” is based upon a series of principles. Covey claims that these principles are self-evident and endure in most religious, social, and ethical systems. They have universal application. When you value the correct principles, you see reality as it truly is. This is the foundation of his bestselling book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.


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What Are the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People?

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Covey’s seven habits are composed of the primary principles of character upon which happiness and success are based. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People puts forward a principle-centered approach to lớn both personal và interpersonal effectiveness. Rather than focusing on altering the outward manifestations of your behavior & attitudes, it aims khổng lồ adapt your inner core, character, và motives.

The seven habits in this book will help you move from a state of dependence, to lớn independence, & finally lớn interdependence. While society and most of the self-help books on the market champion independence as the highest achievement, Covey argues that it’s interdependence that yields the greatest results. 

Interdependence is a more mature, advanced concept. It precludes the knowledge that you are an independent being, but that working with others will produce greater results than working on your own. To attain this cấp độ of interdependence, you must cultivate each of the seven habits laid out in the book. The seven habits are as follows:

Be proactiveBegin with the over in mindPut first things firstThink win/winSeek lớn understand first, before making yourself understoodLearn to synergizeSharpen the saw

This 7 Habits of Highly Effective People book summary will look at each of these habits & show you how to lớn put them into kích hoạt to become more successful in whatever you want lớn achieve.

Habit 1: Be Proactive

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The first & most fundamental habit of an effective person is to be proactive. More than just taking the initiative, being proactive means taking responsibility for your life. Consequently, you don’t blame your behavior on external factors such as circumstances, but own it as part of a conscious choice based on your values. Where reactive people are driven by feelings, proactive people are driven by values.

While external factors have the ability to cause pain, your inner character doesn’t need khổng lồ be damaged. What matters most is how you respond to lớn these experiences. Proactive individuals focus their efforts on the things they can change, whereas reactive people focus their efforts on the areas of their lives in which they have no control. They amass negative energy by blaming external factors for their feelings of victimization. This, in turn, empowers other forces to lớn perpetually control them.

The clearest manifestation of proactivity can be seen in your ability lớn stick lớn the commitments you make to yourself và to others. This includes a commitment lớn self-improvement and, by extension, personal growth. By setting small goals và sticking khổng lồ them, you gradually increase your integrity, which increases your ability to lớn take responsibility for your life. Covey suggests undertaking a 30-day proactivity thử nghiệm in which you make a series of small commitments và stick lớn them. Observe how this changes your sense of self.

Habit 2: Begin With the over in Mind

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To better understand this habit, Covey invites you to imagine your funeral. He asks you lớn think how you would like your loved ones khổng lồ remember you, what you would like them khổng lồ acknowledge as your achievements, và to consider what a difference you made in their lives. Engaging in this thought experiment helps you identify some of your key values that should underpin your behavior. 

Accordingly, each day of your life should contribute to lớn the vision you have for your life as a whole. Knowing what is important to you means you can live your life in service of what matters most. Habit two involves identifying old scripts that are taking you away from what matters most, and writing new ones that are congruent with your deepest values. This means that, when challenges arise, you can meet them proactively and with integrity, as your values are clear.

Covey states that the most effective way to lớn begin with the kết thúc in mind is to create a personal mission statement. It should focus on the following:

What you want lớn be (character)What you want to bởi (contributions and achievements)The values upon which both of these things are based

In time, your mission statement will become your personal constitution. It becomes the basis from which you make every decision in your life. By making principles the center of your life, you create a solid foundation from which to lớn flourish. This is similar to the philosophy Ray Dalio presents in his book, Principles. As principles aren’t contingent on external factors, they don’t waver. They give you something to lớn hold on to lớn when times get tough. With a principle-led life, you can adopt a clearer, more objective worldview.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

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To begin this chapter, Covey asks you khổng lồ answer the following questions:

What one thing could you bởi vì regularly, that you aren’t currently doing, that would improve your personal life?Similarly, what one thing could you vày to improve your business or professional life?

Whereas habit one encourages you to lớn realize you are in charge of your own life, and habit two is based on the ability khổng lồ visualize and to identify your key values, habit three is the implementation of these two habits. It focuses on the practice of effective self-management through independent will. By asking yourself the above questions, you become aware that you have the power lớn significantly change your life in the present.

Thus, having an independent will means you are capable of making decisions và acting on them. How frequently you use your independent will is dependent on your integrity. Your integrity is synonymous with how much you value yourself and how well you keep your commitments. Habit three concerns itself with prioritizing these commitments and putting the most important things first. This means cultivating the ability lớn say no to things that don’t match your guiding principles. To manage your time effectively in accordance with habit three, your actions must adhere lớn the following:

They must be principle-centered.They must be conscience-directed, meaning that they give you the opportunity lớn organize your life in accordance with your chip core values.They define your key mission, which includes your values and long-term goals.They give balance khổng lồ your life.They are organized weekly, with daily adaptations as needed.

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The thread that ties all five of these points together is that the focus is on improving relationships and results, not on maximizing your time. This shares sentiments with Tim Ferris who, in The 4-Hour Work Week, argues that time management is a deeply flawed concept.

Habit 4: Think Win/Win

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Covey argues that win/win isn’t a technique, it’s a philosophy of human interaction. It’s a frame of mind that seeks out a mutual benefit for all concerned. This means that all agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, and all parties feel satisfied with the outcome. To embody this mindset, life must be seen as a cooperative, not a competition. Consequently, anything less than a win/win outcome goes against the pursuit of interdependence, which is the most efficient state khổng lồ be operating within.

Therefore, lớn adopt a win/win mindset, you must cultivate the habit of interpersonal leadership. This involves exercising each of the following traits when interacting with others:

Self-awarenessImaginationConscienceIndependent will

To be an effective win/win leader, Covey argues that you must embrace five independent dimensions:

Character: This is the foundation upon which a win/win mentality is created, và it means acting with integrity, maturity, & an “abundance mentality” (i.e., there is plenty of everything for everyone, one person’s success doesn’t threaten your success).Relationships: Trust is essential lớn achieving win/win agreements. You must nourish your relationships khổng lồ maintain a high màn chơi of trust.Agreements: This means that the parties involved must agree on the desired results, guidelines, resources, accountability, and the consequences.Win/win performance agreements & supportive systems: Creating a standardized, agreed-upon set of desired results lớn measure performance within a system that can support a win/win mindset.Processes: All processes must allow for win/win solutions to arise.

Habit 5: Seek First lớn Understand, Then lớn Be Understood

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If you want lớn improve your interpersonal relations, Covey argues that you must endeavor to understand a situation before attempting to lớn make yourself understood. The ability lớn communicate clearly is essential for your overall effectiveness, as it’s the most important skill you can train. While you spend years learning lớn read, write, và speak, Covey states that little focus is given to lớn training the skill of listening.

If your principles are solid, you’ll naturally want to lớn engage and listen to lớn people without making them feel manipulated. Consequently, it’s through your character that you transmit & communicate what type of a person you are. Through it, people will come to instinctively trust and xuất hiện up to lớn you. While most people listen with the intent of replying, the proficient listener will listen with the intent khổng lồ understand. This is known as the skill of empathic listening.

An empathic listener can get into the frame of reference of the person speaking. By doing so, they see the world as they do and feel things the way they feel. Empathic listening, therefore, allows you khổng lồ get a clearer picture of reality. When you begin lớn listen lớn people with the intent of understanding them, you’ll be astounded at how quickly they will mở cửa up.

Once you think you’ve understood the situation, the next step is khổng lồ make yourself understood. This requires courage. By using what you’ve learned from empathic listening, you can communicate your ideas in accordance with your listener’s paradigms và concerns. This increases the credibility of your ideas, as you will be speaking in the same language as your audience.

Habit 6: Synergize

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When synergy is operating at its fullest, it incorporates the desire to reach win/win agreements with empathic communication. It’s the essence of principle-centered leadership. It unifies và unleashes great power from people, as it’s based on the tenant that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. The real challenge is to lớn apply principles of synergetic creative cooperation into your social interactions. Covey argues that such instances of synergetic interpersonal group collaboration are often neglected but should be part of your daily life.

At its core, synergy is a creative process that requires vulnerability, openness, và communication. It means balancing the mental, emotional, and psychological differences between a group of people and, in doing so, creating new paradigms of thought between the group members. This is where creativity is maximized. Synergy is effectiveness as an interdependent reality. This involves teamwork, team building, & the creation of unity with other human beings.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

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This seventh habit is all about enhancing yourself through the four dimensions of renewal:

Physical: Exercise, nutrition, và stress management. This means caring for your physical body, eating right, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly.Social/emotional: Service, empathy, synergy, và intrinsic security. This provides you with a feeling of security and meaning.Spiritual: Value clarification & commitment, study, & meditation. In focusing on this area of your life, you get closer lớn your center & your inner value system.Mental: Reading, visualizing, planning, and writing. Khổng lồ continually educate yourself means expanding your mind. This is essential for effectiveness.

To “sharpen the saw” means lớn express & exercise all four of these motivations regularly & consistently. This is the most important investment you can make in your life, as you are the instrument of your performance. It’s essential lớn tend to lớn each area with balance, as to lớn overindulge in one area means to lớn neglect another. 

However, a positive effect of sharpening your saw in one dimension is that it has a knock-on positive effect in another, due lớn them being interrelated. For instance, by focusing on your physical health, you inadvertently improve your mental health, too. This, in turn, creates an upward spiral of growth và change that helps you lớn become increasingly self-aware. Moving up the spiral means you must learn, commit, & do increasingly more as you move upwards và progressively become a more efficient individual.